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*luntasaspoon
writes:right b4 u say it no it is not me.....i have been duped with the biggest secret any woman can tell another woman. basically my mate slept with her ex of 6 yrs ago about a month ago. thats not all.... she is married to my husbands cousin and has been for the last 5 yrs. they have got three kids (one from the ex) a house, a dog and everything.i have told her that she was stupid and shouldnt have done it and she says that it felt right and so nice. and she is STILL tslking about it.i dont want to break up a family but wtf do i do???
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reader, bluntasaspoon +, writes (4 September 2008):
bluntasaspoon is verified as being by the original poster of the question just an update. i have asked her not to keep talking to me about it as it kinda hurts my feelings to see her openly talking about it to me whenever we are alone. her relationship with her hubby has got better thankfully but the thing is, now she wont speak to me. but i suppose it's my own fault, i was a bit blunt but i was also kind. what do u reckon? just leave her to it or get on her case and tell her to stop being immature?
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reader, mature teen! +, writes (20 August 2008):
 Oh dear, I real feel for you. I would really feel under presure knowing a secret like that. I don't know what to say apart from try to get her to tell her husband herself! She proberley won't be able to keep in quite forever. And it would be better to get it out in the open as earl as posible! Take care hun!
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reader, angelica111 +, writes (20 August 2008):
 Dear bluntasaspoon,(what a name!)
Your mate has obviously not thought about the consequences she might get into having done what she did.. but also in telling you this.
She considers you as her heart friend, s/one she can tell everything to; to get it off her heart s/how; w/out getting into pblms. Or, if she might be perverse,(which is unlikely here) she could be wanting to make you jealous or go out there and tell everyone..
I honestly do not think she would want this though, in reading your msge. She just needed a 'good' time, and maybe wanted your advise to not do not again. Maybe her and her hub are going through a difficult moment or so, or she is just nostalgic of her ex.. So many reasons and not reasons to do what she did. We are not in her body or mind.
Try and just accept the fact, and do not do or say anything to her or your surroundings. You know, these things are part of real life, and maybe one day you will understand this.. If she does go on about it and it annoys you, just tell her not to tell you anything any longer, and try to explain why. Do offer your support if she needs it, but w/out the details. That's what friends are for. She'll understand if you say this with a good intention towards her.
Wish you luck, Angelica
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