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writes:My husband's personal hygiene is bad. He doesn't change his under wear everyday. After a lot of debate and persuasion he started changing. If i am not around he doesn't bother to change. And now again he doesn't change. Adding to this he doesn't use soap while bathing... just water... he is disintereted in sex too. I have had lot fights and nothing changed. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): from the little i have read seems he may be depressed,you have to convince him that people will notice a funny smell from him if he fails to change his underwear
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reader, thor  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 can be either he has been brought up to be a slob, had his mother wait on him like i had in the past, now shes gone i am learning. or he is depressed about something and wont share his problems, sometimes its not easy to open up especially if he is preasured in to it. if it is slobbishness keep spraying stinky stuff around him if he doesnt like it keep doing it he will soon get the hint. have you tried talking with out fighting or even treating him like a child might work giving him goodies for changing him self, like brownie points. might work
hope i been a bit of help
thor
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reader, Melanne +, writes (28 March 2007):
 This sounds to me as if your husband has got depression. He needs to see a doctor and get some medication. The reason your husbands personal hygiene is bad could be because he doesn't care to look after himself at the moment. The reason you argue could also be to do with your husbands mental health problems.
You need to be there to support your husband and try to help him talk about how he feels. It might be a good idea to find a good counsellor for your husband to talk to. Antidepresants may also be a possibility. It really is important that you seek medical help for both of your sakes.
It cannot be easy to live with someone who doesn't take care of himself and on the other hand it cannot be nice for him to be like this.
Lack of libido is quite common in women, but rare in men. With the added addition of lack of personal hygiene it really does look like your husband has depression. I hope my advice has helped and that you will get the help that you need.
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