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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a big problem and don't know how to handle it. My husband's best friend is putting his moves on me, I don't know what to Do, I already keep my distance but he finds ways to talk to me, he knows exactly how I feel but he doesn't stop harassing me. I don't know what to do I don't want my husband getting psychically hurt or getting arrested, but I do want this to stop! How should I handle this horrible situation?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 April 2013):
 I know that you are afraid of what your husband may do to this creep but honey I'd tell him.
"baby you need to know your friend is not such a friend.... and I'm really afraid that you will want to kill him when I tell you what a dog he's been but the truth is I care so much for you I don't want you to get in trouble and i'm not telling you this so you will go after him but rather so that you can tell him you know and maybe he will stop doing it"
and then tell him that his "friend" is saying things that make you uncomfortable and he would take you from hubby in a new york second. Hubby may unfriend him.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (13 April 2013):
*sorry, I meant husband, not bf.
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female
reader, maverick494 +, writes (13 April 2013):
Wow OP, he's definitely crossing the line--in the proximity of your bf, no doubt. The guy obviously has no integrity. What a slime. It's time to settle this once and for all.
Tell him you're tired of his suggestive comments and that you're not interested in him. Then tell him that trying to steal a taken girl away from someone is a very unattractive quality. Then ignore him as if he doesn't exist. That means no eye contact, no conversation, no nothing. He's nothing, he doesn't exist to you. If he moves towards you, go stand with someone else. If there is no-one else, leave.
Then go tell your boyfriend about this and ask him to be with you whenever this guy is near. Look, you're both adults, right? I doubt your boyfriend will find this smuck worthy enough to end up in jail for. He'll probably manhandle him, make a few threats and if the guy says something nasty, your bf may even punch him, but I highly doubt he'll beat him within an inch of his life. That is, unless this creep did something to warrant that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2013): Sometimes jerks like this don't get the hint my advice is for you to tell your husband and let him handle this situation. Your husband needs to know what kind of a person he has as a friend, and if the friend gets his ass kicked by your hubby well I guess he had it coming. Sorry you are going through this Best of Luck.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2013): I did put a lot of distance between the two and I am not all polite to him. He finds any opportunity to approach me and
this bothers me a lot. He says things like what I would give
for a kiss from you. Your husband is a lucky man to wake up
next to you naked every morning. That If I would ride him he
would rock my world and I would see what I am missing out,
and that to be with him and leave my husband. Even when my
husband is present he makes advances when he knows my
husband is not looking for example he blows kisses or winks
at me. I want to tell my husband really bad, but I am not
sure if my husband will just want to talk this out like
men. This is what scares me I don't want him getting beaten
up or going to jail. But this has to stop.
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male
reader, BillyRayValentine +, writes (13 April 2013):
You have already told him how you feel and he still won't take the hint. Time to tell your husband. After your warning to him, if he refused to go away, then you need to tell your husband.
He will deal with this disrespectul friend, who is really not his friend if he is hitting on you, his wife.
Good Luck!
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (13 April 2013):
Be firm with him. If he touches you in a way you don't like, pull away or put distance between you two. If he makes double entendre's or says dubious stuff, tell him off. You can't leave it up to chance. You don't have to be 'nice' and 'courteous' if he isn't.
Also, can you give me some examples of his harassing? The way he approaches, what he does/says, etc. That'll make it easier for us to give you specific advice that you can use.
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