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writes: How do I get my moody husband to communicate with me ? I have been married for 5 years now and have 2 children ages 8(Boy) and 2(girl). I have a hard working husband who can get moody and angry quite easily. There are times he scares the children when he gets angry for no good reason.For example we went clothes shopping for the kids and in the shop he just became moody and wanted to go home then and there.I asked him what his problem was and he replied that I know what it was. Up to now I still don't know what the hell he was talking about and decided not to say anything to him incase his temper got worse. To me he acts like a psycho at times and I wonder If it is worth carrying on with this marraige. He does not see that his behavior is over the top. As for the communication he does not want to talk about anything and If we do he leads it into an argument and he takes what i tell him to heart.He acts like a spoilt brat at times and nothing is fun in our household because he is sure to spoil everything. Please does anyone have any advice how to deal with this matter other than ending this marriage. Thank you. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): This is sounding so familiar, but i have just got married. Shit!
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (5 April 2006):
 I am sorry you are going through this, dear. I have to assume from your posting he wasn't this way, in years past? People who are always moody and angry, are dealing with an 'inner unhappiness' of some sort with themselves. This problem is his..so please don't blame yourself. He's likely turned his discontent on you, because he cannot face his own troubles. The only real way to turn around this destructive pattern is for him to face up to the problem that's underlying his negative state. This will only be achieved by counseling..but know that he must get to the point where he realizes he has the problem and only he can do something to resolve it. He has to be willing to make your life, his children's life and his own life better. Open this subject up in a caring, loving gentle, honest way. But be honest..tell him you are scared-tell him you are very unhappy. . How he reacts to this will be very 'telling'. If he accepts he has a problem and seeks some help..encourage him but let him kow this is the only way this marriage will work. He has to get his anger and mood swings in check. This is not a healthy environment for your young children. If he reacts to your openess, with more anger, then get out as soon as possible. (Don't allow yourself to get baited into an arguement) Leave this situation asap and protect yourself and your children. Have a plan in place. Go to a shelter, a safe place. Talk to family and trusted friends but make sure your children are safe. Realize, he needs help and fast! He's one very, very unhappy man. Good luck , dear and keep us posted on how you make out.
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