My husband don't mind if I find a sexual partner, is this normal??

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Question - (10 March 2006)

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A female , anonymous writes:

OK. Here it is.

I am married with a young child. I love my husband very much and he says he loves me. But he has no sex drive whatsoever. We last had sex 2 months ago and before that it was 6 months previously.

I have tried most things to get him interested and now realise I just have to accept that he isnt interested.

There is nothing wrong with him physically and we have tried professional help.

What do I do now? He has siad he doesnt mind if I find someone to be a sexual partner as long as he can watch. Is this normal?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006):

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Disease is something that has crossed my mind. But having any new sexual partner is a chnace isn't it? After all if I left my husband to look for somebody new I would be taking a risk then as well.

If anyone has any better ideas let me know.....

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A male reader, eddie +, writes (13 March 2006):

Do you want to do it? Does the idea turn you on? What about disease?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2006):

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This seems pretty strange to me but not something I am adverse to, so what do I do next?

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A male reader, eddie +, writes (10 March 2006):

I don't think that's normal. It seems he is insterested in sex, but a different brand. His idea of fun is to watch you having fun. It's not unheard of but it seems the idea pleases him more than you. Does this interest you?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006):

i feel for u i really do. im in a very similar situation my self.

its not that its not normal quite a lot of men out there are happy to watch their parthners hav sex hence the 3sum.

i dissagree with the response below. if both of you are happy and comfortable with the situation that your husband has presented to you then why not?

yes you hav a child so you do need to be careful but i wouldn't dismiss it all together.

however you do need to speak to your husband and make sure that he is 100% comfortable with the idea before you even think of tryin anythin.

you could always make it a little more appealing if u are interested and pick a female sex partner. but its definitely for you and your husband to discuss.

good luck xxxxx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006):

it sounds kinky. maybe thats the spark of interest he needs. then again it is quite weird at the same time.

maybe you need to be pushy and rough. haha im not sure. he shouldn't say he doesnt mind if you find someone else to have sex with though, thats wrong.

think of your child too.

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