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writes:He's my best friend. He's also my on/off boyfriend. We had a horrible relationship, and even though we had these feelings for each other it just wasn't enough. We're one of those couples that fights, then makes up, then fights then breaks up then gets back together a few hours/days later. Its exhausting. I know I have feelings for him, I just don't know what they are. Meanwhile, I've known this other guy for years. Once when we were broken up, I cheated on the first guy with he second guy. The thing with the second guy is, unexplainable. I've never truly believed in love at first sight, unspoken connections, all that...until I met him, spent time with him, and realized he was it. Now to be fair, I've only just started realizing this. I jokingly said it shortly after we first met, but its become clear that its not a joke. He's perfect in my own definition. We have this connection, theres something between that keeps us finding each other, even if we've lost touch for years. So the first guy and I have problems. The second guy and I have talked things out, and after talking for hours, we realized that whats been holding us back is the fact that we're both scared of what comes next. We're both unsure of how to approach it, how to carry on. We're basically scared of the feelings, and what that means for each other and for ourselves. And now, we worked it out, and he asked me out. He asked me if I would be his girlfriend. So high school, i know. I broke up with the first guy upon this revelation. I'm with the second guy, but the thing is, I can't break the connection with the first guy. He knows ME. Even if we fought, he was still always there for me, supporting me, loving me the best he could. I'm ready to give my all to this new relationship. I love this guy. But somethings holding me to the first guy. I don't want to lose our relationship, because I tell him everything. He is truly my best friend. My heart belongs to the second guy, but I have a bond with the first guy. I don't know what to do at this point other than ignore it and go on with the second guy.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (4 February 2011):
There are two questions for you:
Are you able to keep a friendship (real friendship, no sex) with the first guy after all that happened?
If you aren't you will have to leave it for starting with your new boyfriend. If you are able, there it comes the second one:
Will your new boyfriend accept your friendship with the first guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): Don't play with both guys otherwise one day you will regret it because it may happens with you and how will you feel if you stick one guy leave the other and later a girl enters in your present b/f's life and you might suffer and then you might realize what it means. I am not threatening but see the otherside as well as future results
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): You're about to make a mega huge mistake that you're going to REGRET. You love the first boy and you are going to destroy the second boy if you keep going at the speed that you're going. You need to re-evaluate what's going on in your head. Good luck!
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