A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hello,well here goes i have a question,my fiance is not there for me as i feel he should be he is real jealious but doesnt want to give me much attention but i mean jealious when im not even doing any thing wrong im so unhappy but i love him with all my heart we are in a long distant relationship at the moment and he hasnt came seen me since he left to help hes sister and family 6 months ago i have went to see him twice and he always talks about me and only me going to see him i feel so upset he wants me to move there in nov. as he got a job there but is looking for a place.i feel pushed out hes life and i am 3 months pregnant with hes baby which hurts because he is not with me i hurt so bad that i want to leave but my will is weak and i feel as i cant leave and really i dont want to leave but i am so unhappy with our relationship i just want to be with him in person its been very stressful on me and the baby going thru everything alone is it too much to ask for my fiance to come visit me ????what do i do??? please help !!!!!!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 September 2007):
 First be honest with yourself. What home life do you expect your baby to have? A caring father who's around and a partner with you, or one who is disconnected? You love him, so if you want him you need to be honest with him. It takes strength, but this is your family you're talking about, so you'll have to build yourself and find the strength. You need to tell him you're unhappy. You need to inform him of your feeling about doing it on your own. I know it sounds harsh, but you have to be and don't give in. This may not be the end, it could just be a rut. Have you ever hear of a comfort zone. A place we get comfortable, we stay in that zone because we feel protected staying there? You have both developed his comfort zone. He may need it to be shaken up a bit. Sometimes people become just comfortable with the way things are, and they don't realize it's a destructive area to stay in. Talk to him, attempt to renegotiate the boundaries of your relationship, if that doesn't work, then say good bye.
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