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writes:Me and my girlfriend have seen each other for a year now, and we have been sleeping with each other for half of that. The thing is, she asked me about anul sex, because she wants to try it, but im not sure, i dont really want to try it. i know it sounds stupid cause normally its the girl who is apprehensive about it, but i dont know what i should tell her, or do. Reply to this Question
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reader, peaceteen  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Don't do it I've read about the effects of anal sex
and it's a 70% chance you can get AIDS.
My tip is DON'T DO IT
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I've tried this "accidentally" (or so he says) before and let me tell, it is not a pleasant feeling at all for a girl. It hurts like nothing I've ever felt before. While I don't know if this is true for everyone, it feels so painful that I can't imagine why anyone would actually WANT something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): No, it doesn't sound stupid at all. Now's the time to be a man, take control of this relationship and tell her no - you are not happy about committing an unnatural act, that you're perfectly satisfied with normal sex. Ask her what is wrong with your relationship that she has to make such a suggestion? It seems to be a normal trend these days to experiment with anal but bloody hell - it's not mandatory! Simply explain that as far as you are concerned, you are perfectly satisfied with the way things are. If she persists well, sorry mate - she's not for you, time to move on.Good luck.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Dont do it. At 13-15 yrs old, you are already breaking the law by having underage sex as it is, so dont make the matter any worse. It will be you (as the man) who gets the blame if it all goes wrong and she gets pregnant/ gets infected with something nasty from anal sex, or experiences any sort of medical complication from it - and yes it can happen.Anal sex is something that most people find offensive. It can go horribly wrong, apart from all the other issues about STD/STI and other things. It is not something that you just play about with. If you dont want to do it, then tell her you are not comfortable with it. I personally would run away very fast if a partner asked me to do that - but that is my personal opinion. NO still means no.You have you whole life to experiment sexually. I expect she doesnt actually fully understand exactly what is involved on her part. This is because she and you are both far too young to be even contemplating normal sex, let alone anything as extreme as this! Enjoy your childhood, get your exams and education under your belt, then you have your whole life to enjoy the wonders of sex. Why the need to experience a lifetimes worth of situations even before you LEGALLY should be doing them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): One key element of any relationship is compromise. You can try it once. If it doesn't work for you, tell her it's not your thing. One compromise 'should' also lead to another from the other person. You pull a little, she should loosen up a little. She pushes some, you should relax a bit. It's a balancing act of standing firm while maintaining enough flexibility for some further opportunities.
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