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writes:Hi, I can't really decide what to do, What I mean is, I've been with my girlfriend for aprox a year and 2 months.But she has changed, A lot, Now she has no respect for me or anyone around her.Sometimes she is really mean and sarcastic to me, And it really upsets me.I brang up the issue once, And well, She said she will try her best in the future, That she didn't want us to finish, And that she loves me more than anything.But nothing has changed since, She still treats me like she did before, I know people change, But is this normal ?And well, Since I have a tendency to complain or moan a lot at her, I don't want to really bring up the subject again, So I don't know how I can solve the matter ? Now, I don't know if I still love her, I just can't decide .. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): maybe she has depression or maybe she's bi polar?
if this gets worse to the point where she makes you feel worthless then yes you must leave. i suggest you take her to a doctor or therapy. there must be something wrong for her to be doing this to you and some people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): I think you should try to fix things before, if she can't learn to respect you and your feelings, then yes leave. Your happiness is most important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, That's the thing ! She's never like this normally, She has loads of friends, Nobody has died, And she has nothing to be depressed about ..And she's only really mean to a few certain people,Should I ignore her for awhile ?Or leave her ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): there must be something worng with her for her to treat the one person in this world that she is close too. maybe she is depressed? i would try talking to her about this. did something happen? death in the family? loss of friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): If you hadn't said she is the same towards other people, I would have thought that perhaps she is too comfortable in your relationship. Not the case here though.
If you want the problem to be solved, it will have to be prompted by you bringing it up to her. Perhaps you could say it in a more serious tone, tell her how it's making you feel. Try not to make it into an argument.
Unfortunately when people want to change or do something they can only really do it if they want to. She said she will change and she hasn't, which probably means she hasn't taken you seriously and doesn't realise what big of an impact her words have on you.
I don't want to just say call your relationship a day, but if you try talking to her and you get nothing again, then you should consider it. If you're getting more bad than good out of your relationship then it is not healthy to contintue if you want to be happy, especially if she doesn't see this and isn't doing anything to change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): i suggest you 'let go' of her for a while. i dont mean a breakup or anything, but just act like you dont care for a day or two by ignoring her but in a mild way. that will get her thinking, as to why your being so 'distant' and she herself will do something about it. the thing is, you dont feel loved enough, you feel ill treated and thats not how it should be. I guess the reason she's become like this is because she feels secure with you, and has begun to feel that ul be there no matter how she behaves. YOu need to make her realise that she needs to respect you in order for you to respect her. So be slightly ignorant of her for a few days only, like dont call or reptly to her texts, tell her u were busy or smthng, that;l get her thinking. dont overdo it, but make her realise that ur very precious and important.-zinz
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reader, Love is all you need  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 maybe she has an issue, like not with sarcasm and stuff but maybe she's just not feeling great cause something happened. You should bring it up, just say you told her and she didn't even try to change so maybe the relationship isn't worth it to her, and she will probably change knowing your serious bout it.
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