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*esley1977
writes:My grlfriend cheated on me four times,but I still love her and we got a child together.Do you think she will ever change?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Even though i never caught her in person,i was always finding my ex on dating sites. Mysterious texting she never knew nothing about and clumsily leaving phone numbers about with a mans name next to it. Her writing but as usual didnt know anything. She always took it badly when we broke up. Get back together,just to change her tactics and carry it on. Like u should do,i accepted she wasnt good and now its history. Get rid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): Vow, my heart is bleeding for you; I have lots of empathy with you; You don't DESERVE to be treated like this;
BUT
I CANNOT tell you if she will chnage or not; as much as that I would like to; I just cannot;
HOWEVER
Let us be realistic; she has done it numerous times; WHY will she now change?
I am afraid, no matter how painfull it might be for you to MOVE ON; that is the ONLY SOLUTION; yes, you share a child; support your child and be a good parent for your child;
BUT
Cut all emotional and physical ties with this womand; MOVE ON;
Find somebody with MORALS AND VALUES; You DESERVE the BEST;
I know this might sound harsh, and is not what you want to hear;
BUT
I have to give you my honest opinion and advice;
Best of luck; be strong for yourself and your child; Trust me the child will need you in future;at least allow the child to learn from one parent about morals and values;
Best wishes and hey...lots of SMILES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): No, she won't change. People are either the type that's willing to cross that line or they're not. Your girlfriend is.
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reader, sarah_s  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 She's not faithful is she. You have a child to think about as well you need to settle down with a more even relationship because, it will really complicate yourself being with this woman. As to why her actions are so misbahving have you told her so otherwise, she's just going to take more of a advantage. You shouldn't forgive her certaintely not now. One is enough.
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Do YOU think she is going to change?
there's your answer.
Don't waste your time and move on.
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reader, MattUK +, writes (26 July 2008):
That's always heartbreaking. I went through something very similar earlier this year and got some great advice from people on here. Have at look at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-differ-in-our-attitude-to-fidelity-.html
if you like.
Good luck.
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reader, bellasmommy  +, writes (26 July 2008):
once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater they say... BUT i dont know, if she says she will change, you could give her a chance, and if she doesnt.. i would break up OR cheat on her!! i know its hard to break up with someone when you have a child, but its not like you wont ever see her again, cuz you have a kid... get it?
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reader, domino21 +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Im very sorry that you have to deal with that. Unfortunately since shes already done it 4 times she will most likely do it again. If it was a one time thing I would say she could have made a mistake and learned from it. But mistakes you dont keep repeating. Im sad to say she will most likely do it again. You deserve better. Right now focus on raising your child, and when your ready find yourself a girl that shows you more respect. No one deserves to be cheated on.
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