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*iceguy34
writes:I started dating this girl i worked with at work at the begining of october.We both really liked each other and moved very fast into a relationship.She has a lot of excess baggage like three kids one that lives with her.An exboyfreind that constantly in trouble with the law do to drugs and going to priosn this week.I told her i am fine with all this!We both don't work at the palce we did work at because of being together allthe time. It is now after thanksgiving and she said she wants some same and needs to focus on her son which i under stand,i care for him to and he likes me. She wants to be friends but me waiting on her to call all the time is driving me nuts!I love her and want to take care of her how can i make her see that?(Or should i just let the relationship be friendly?)
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reader, g man  +, writes (5 December 2007):
Sometimes you just have to accept that she doesnt love you as much as you love her and you truly cant make someone love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): This woman clearly has a lot of issues to deal with.
She told you she needs some time, particularly to focus on her son. This means you should be willing to respect her priorities and be her friend - not her boyfriend at this time. She probably realizes you want to support her and that you care about her; nevertheless you cannot drive yourself mad waiting to either call her or for her to call you all the time!
Nothing says you can't love her and care about her; but the sensible thing to do now is turn your attention to other activities and interests in your life!
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