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writes: hi!, I have been with my patner for 5 months, we have been talking about me moving in for about 3 months,I have always known she has a problem with commitment (never commited before). We get on really well and love eachother loads, but suddenly she is getting 'cold feet' about me moving in, I have said I understand (which I do sort of),im so scared of saying or doing the wrong thing, she still loves me and I really do believe her. I just would like advise on how to handle this delicate situation, I have told her im ready and she say's im not pushing it, what else can i do? I really,really dont want to mess this up. please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): Oh you poor honey, its a hobbile feleing isn't it?! I agree with whats bee nsaid before, relax and enjoy being with each other, don't even consider movnign in together just yet, or getting engaged or any of that commitment stuff! Just relax, enjoy each other and doing things together - when the time's right it'll all slot into place :)
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (8 January 2006):
Five months is not long enough to share your personal space with each other and she is right to get cold feet. When you reach one year of being a couple then you can discuss moving in together but not right now.
Ignore the subject and let her make the first move when she feels confident about you and the relationship. You wont mess it up so stay cool and dont sweat the small stuff.
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (8 January 2006):
if shes never been committed before she probably afraid of messing it up too. it does seem that five months isn't a long time so maybe thats what shes thinking. if she loves you, she'll want to take things slow and carefully, so withdraw the suggestion and say maybe we should wait, even though your ready to do this she doesn't seem to be and moving in maybe the thing that messes up your relationship because its so fast. have a long talk about it or ask if you can have a trial thing and live with her 4 maybe two weeks and see how it goes. hope ive been helpful xx
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