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writes:I am not comfortable with my body at all. Any time I am intimate with some one I do my damnedest to keep my clothes on. I feel gross. They always seem fine with it but I am not. I have recently started dieting and exercising and I lost 22 pounds but still have a little bit to go. My guy friends are noticing and I feel that they are paying more attention to me but I cant get out of my mind that when I do loose all the weight that they didn't like me before when I was fat why should I give them a chance now. Is that wrong? All I can think about when ever I go on dates is that "wow imagine how I looked at my biggest you probably wouldn't even have given me a chance." It makes me think that maybe being fat is the worse thing that can happen and that before I started to loose the weight I would have been alone the rest of my life. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): I've noticed similar. When I have been different weights, people react to me differently in public... things feel different. My body type is the sort that can shrink down to "vogue" size and when I have been that size, the difference of how I am treated by strangers to how I am treated when I am 10- 15 pounds heavier than that "ideal" is astounding.
I encourage you to live healthfully and make that your goal. It's always best to find a lifestyle you can be content with, that's none too extreme in either direction (serious militant dieting... serious.. er... hedonism?). You will reach your body's natural "setpoint"... your "equilibrium" after a time of steadily settling into this lifestyle... and there you should stay. It won't be a weight that is "overweight". It will certainly not be unattractive.
-Tante Vic
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reader, mario23 +, writes (28 November 2010):
Well, its honestly up to you if you should give them another chance. Dont lose weight just to please others. It's possible to lose a lot of weight in a short amount of time. I lost 50 pounds in a year, just by walking a lot more and eating less!
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reader, acbb +, writes (28 November 2010):
i thought the samething, i was 220 at my heaviest but i decided to get in shape and i lost 60 pounds in 4 months. you have every right to think the way you do cause i felt the same. its up to you to decide if you want to keep your friends but dont lose weight becaseu of them, do it FOR YOURSELF! thats what i did and it turned my life around. you wont be alone cause of your looks, you will be alone if you lack confidence in yourself, there IS someone out there for everyone and you're only 18-21! you have all the time in the world! take your time and goodluck
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