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writes:I am pretty upset over a situation regarding somebody who was a very close friend. I will call her H. She has relocated to London at least 6 months ago because her fiance lives there and she writes in her blog on how she is torn and finds it hard to relate to people in London due to them being cold-natured. I know this is a generalization but H keeps on saying that she is very homesick for her old hometown. H broke it off with me a fortnight ago saying she only came to her old hometown to tie up loose ends and that whenever she would visit she would not be visiting alone. H also said that she lost sleep due to the guilt over this decision she had to make. I have a feeling this is not a conscious decision she has recently made.I am perplexed by this because H was determined to maintain our friendship and has met up with me for the past few months.I would greatly appreciate somebody to enlighten me on this if possible. Thank-you :) xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2015): Most people enjoy slating London because it is such a large city so full of diversity and a settled population in many different areas that can make newcomers feel like outsiders, but the truth is that it is so full of places to go and things to do that people usually slowly meander into a whole new set of people and then life suddenly takes off.Perhaps this has happened to your friend and although she wanted to keep her loyalties to familiar people like yourself ,she now realises that she has made a completely new life and wont be getting home much in the future.So she came to see you in person but she knew she was moving on.At least she has been honest and told you that her world has expanded to accomodate a whole load of new people but she doesnt want you waiting around for a friendship she can no longer provide and a promise that she can no longer keep.She wants you to fnd new friends in your life because she cant be there to do the fun things you used to do.Its good that she didnt give you the corny line that "we must meet up sometime soon again!"knowing perfectly well that she would never get the chance to do so.She valued your friendship and she hopes that you will realise that she doesnt want you to waste your time thinking that she can continue to be a good friend to you now.So open up your mind to the possibility that you two will be making new friends and she is now history.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2015): Maybe she wanted to end the home town chapter so she can fully embrace the london chapter of her life. You say she writes negatively about her experiences in london and i would hope you haven't agreed with her, you know, bashed the place and people she is trying to call home. She said she would not be visiting her home town alone which me suggests that if you want her in your life then you will have her as part of a package, she is one of a two part collection now (Herself and her partner). I know you want your close friend but it appears she wants to let go. It may just be causing too much pain to keep saying goodbye and if her partner is not accepted because he "took her away" then i can understand her frustration and willingness to cut things off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2015): Your post is confusing. Were you in a romantic relationship?
You make it sound like you broke-up as a couple. Then you make it sound like you're seeing each other again.
What does your friendship have to do with her moving to London with her fiance? Friends don't breakup. They just go their separate ways and/or sever ties. You have to have a reason for doing it.
Explain the nature of your relationship.
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