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writes: Hi, I am to be married in 1 week. I love my fiance very much, but while he was away on a trip to Brazil I felt quite alone as he was away for 4 months, and I slept with his boss. I feel soo terrible about what I have done and I even made a confession to the local priest but should I tell my fiancee? Or should I just put this behind me and marry him?? Please help me many thanks XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2005): I think people often make the mistake of telling their partner about some drunken, stupid night just so they can feel better about themselves and unload the guilt they feel... Unfortunately for you, you chose to cheat with someone in your partner's social circle and so there is a big chance he will find out independantly. You have a tough decision. If he finds out from others you will be in double trouble. You might want to mention to him that you can't go for 4 weeks without cheating on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2005): If you are ready to make the committment then make it. The past is the past and go on. Forgive yourself. You know how they say: "what they don't know won't hurt them", Well it's true. Can you imagige the confusion it would cause? The committment starts with the wedding vows. Don't torture yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2005): Hi there, Some people would say make a clean breast of things before thinking of going through with the marriage because getting married with that on your concience will eventually have an effect on the marriage anyway. Others would tell you to keep it secret because what he doesn`t know won`t hurt him.The main thing is that that is all good and well but if it does ever get back to him and it is someone else it comes from imagine the betrayal he will feel as a result of that. The thing you should have done was not sleep with his boss in the first place. Fine, he was away for 4 months, but that shouldn`t have given you the right to do this across him. Surely if you love and respect someone to the extent of planning a marriage you would have never even considered the idea.I believe in the moral that honesty is sometimes the best policy. That is all i can say to you really; the choice over what to do must and will ultimately be yours.G ood luch with whatever you decide and take care.
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