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writes:I'm seeing this guy for the past 8 months. In fact, we are engaged and are going to be married in July. He is a very nice, loving, caring person and takes real good care of me and my needs. There is one problem... he has the habit of saying nice things he really doesn't mean. I feel he says a lot of stuff because he thinks that's what I want to hear. He tells me (On his own!!! I don't even have to ask him for any explanations) he does not want to go out with his guy friends because he does not enjoy their company... that he rather not be with anyone other than me. But he goes anyways. Not that this bothers me at all, in fact I want him to have fun with his pals when I cannot be with him. But I hate that he lies to me. He craves for attention all the time and when he has to tell me, he makes it look like he is always getting UNWANTED attention. Which is so not true... and the worst thing is you can see it clearly on his face that he does NOT really feel like the way he is saying he does! It's embarrassing!! What do I do? Is this guy trustworthy? Can I spend the rest of my life with him?
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 ooooh....ok. i dont know what to say here. If he isnt an alcoholic, doesnt beat u, doesnt swear really really badly all the time, and doesnt contradict ur values...whats your problem? we all have our flaws. his just seems a little big and i can tell even though i dont know u at all that u are unhappy with this and u have every right to be. there is nothing more anoying than someone who says something just to make u happy and lies about it. If u really love him and hes a nice guy and u see urself with him get married BUT!! instead of having a big fabulous wedding...have it nice and small and simple, and spend the money on something better like couples counceling before u get married. it will clean the slate and get a lot of emotions out. chances are that u will get divorced if things keep going like this. why not talk to him about how u feel? talking is a good thing. It kind of concerns me though about how often he does this and without prompting. just watch urself, if there is something better go for it.
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