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anonymous
writes:Is it so hard for my parents to beleive i have a boyfriend. They deny me every chance they get. No i am not just fighting them i am gay and i have a boyfriend. They just don't see us that way.We have done much more then just kiss and cuddle,Yes i'm young, we both are. Our parents should not be allowed to divide us. They try but we always happen together as we should be. We need to be left alone or we feel that we need to be alone forever. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2013): Your parents take some legal responsibility for you until you are 21. You can do most things at the age of 18, but there are limits. I don't mean to be rude, but your writing seems a lot younger than the age 18-21. I think you're much younger.Are you in high school or college? Your style of writing says you haven't completed high school.The problem with coming out young, is that your parents still have a say in your life. You live in their home and they write the rules. You can't force anything down their throats. They actually do believe you're gay, but they feel they have the power to deny the existence of your gay relationship. They want it to go away.You need to calm down and not be so in their faces about it.You are forcing them to show you who is the boss. It's their house. You only live in it. If you don't live at home, they still don't have to accept your life-style. My guess is that you are too young to get a decent job, or take care of yourself. They know it. So you'll need to keep your relationship more low key and try to get along with them for the time being. You made the problem bigger by giving them more than they can handle. Then fighting with them. They must support you financially, or you would just live your life and ignore their prejudices.You want to rebel and force them to see things as they are. Not in their house. Their reality is what they have created to be their home and family. You will feel the same when you have your own home.If you want to get along. Stop talking about your boyfriend and just see him when you can. Your family is embarrassed and worried about what the neighbors, their friends, and other members of your family will think. You came out like gang-busters and scared the hell out of them. STOP IT!You've made your point, and they will come around.The best way to get along with your parents is to respect them, and keep your gay life-style to yourself until you have a job and a place of your own. Then you can be as gay as you want, and have all the boyfriends you want.I believe you live still at home, because it wouldn't matter as much if you didn't. Even if I'm totally wrong, and you are the age you say you are, there isn't much they can do to keep you apart.
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