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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I am feeling rather confused at the moment. My ex, who i still love even though he caused me a lot of heartache, has become very interested in me again the last couple of weeks. We have remained in contact over the last year, but he has been contacting me a lot in the week especially. Apologising to me again about how he treated me over a year ago and saying how lovely and amazing i am, and how lucky he is that i still talk to him.I dont know quite what he wants, but he has said he wants to see me this weekend if i let him. I am scared about what he wants, but if im honest i have dreamt of him wanting me. I have never stopped loving him, even though i have tried to move on. It has been difficult. BUT I also know that I dont want to to feel so hurt ever again in my life. Do i give it another go if he asks? Can it ever work 2nd time round? How can you find out if someone is genuine or not? I dont want to be used and thrown away again.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 May 2007):
 Things can work second time round but only if you've dealt with all your issues from the first time round and you accept that however bad you remember things as being, they were even worse when you were right in the middle of them. I don't think it could harm to meet up and talk out all your issues with him but by no means get back with him that day. Listen to what he has to say and then promise to think about it. If he's as in love as he says he is then waiting will be fine with him, if he just wants to meet with you for no strings sex then he'll be exposed. You need to tread carefully here and nobody can tell you what to do but I hope you find some inner clarity soon.
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