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writes: My ex bf has a new gf, the girl he cheated on me with when he was drunk and it meant nothing!! We were going out 3yrs and in a difficult patch but working on it when he went out and kissed this girl. He works with her so has known her for some time and he told me about it as few days later. He said I'd never be able to trust him but he loved me dearly, but that he didn't think he'd ever be able to trust himself as he never thought he'd do that on anyone, let alone on me!!I know he wouldn't have done it unless he really liked the girl, plus he knew her so it was more than physical attraction!Anyway I'm devastated. It's been 2 months now and they still going strong. She's meet his whole family and all his friends. The thing is I love him. I really really love him and I know I'm to blame for pushing him away. But then again if he did love me the way he used to he won't have kissed the girl in the first place.I know I should move on but I know also that he used to love me very very very very much. I know this but I also know he obviously really likes this new girl or he wouldn't have kissed her, wouldn't be going out with her and wouldn't have brought her home to his parents!!Does anyone think that there could still be a chance? Maybe in a year or two? What do I do in the meanwhile? I can't go out as I still love him and I've been out on a few dates but I can't when I still love him so much especially when it was mostly my fault in the first place.I really could do with some help!
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reader, mightyhawk  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 hey, i went though this VERY same situation just the other month, then this weekend, I met up with my ex at a party, partly by coincidence, and we talked, he took me for a walk and we ended up back at his, me him and my very drunk best friend. My friend fell asleep and me and him sat up all night talking. He says he still loves me. Though he had sex with his ex just before we broke up. It surprises you but they can come back, as I have found out. But when we broke up I think the best thing I did was get on as if it was final, I hld up no hopes for us having a future and got on with life. It's the best thing, coninue to talk to him as a friend and if he realy egrets it, he will come back. Keep yourself busy, and enjoy your time apart. I wish you all the luck in the world, I'm sure you didn't really want to ear my story, but it dos help toexplain my reasoning!
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