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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello there, I'm a single lad and have been now for the past few years. My ex-girlfriend ,who is also the nicest person I have ever been in a relationship with, is now single again having just been dumped following a 6 year relationship with someone else. I still have feelings for her and always did even after we split up. I was the one who ended our relationship but it was a decision I ended up regretting and after an attempt to get her back failed it ended up being one of the lowest points of my life and it took me a while to get over it. My situation wasn't helped by the fact that we are godparents to our close friends children and we always ended up seeing eachother. Well, yesterday I was best man and she was bridesmaid at our close friends wedding. I now find the situation harder than it was when she was seeing someone else as I now don't know how to approach her. I knew where I stood when she had a boyfriend, and I learned to accept that she was with someone else, but now she's single I don't know what to do, if anything. We had a few dances at the wedding and she kept grabbing my hand every so often, but I just put this down to the fact that she had had a few drinks. She asked if I was OK with us sharing a taxi home at the end of the night after the bus dropped us off nearby our homes and I said yes, that wouldn't be a problem. She got out of the taxi first and said 'bye, see you soon' (its our godsons birthday in a few weeks). I want to tell her my feelings but don't know how to approach the situation, or when would be the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2012): Would you feel comfortable and secure with a woman who could jump straight to another man after a 6 year relationship?
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2012): Take it easy. Don't rush in. See if you can build up a situation where there is a special warmth between you. Then maybe ask her out to dinner for a catch up. And just see if things develop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2012): First of all how did you learn that she is now single again? Did she tell you or did you hear from a third party? If she didn't tell you herself, maybe she doesn't want you to know.
And if she has only JUST become single again, I think it would be bad form to immediately "move in on her" by disclosing your feelings to her. realize that she got dumped, she wasn't the one who wanted her relationship to end. For all you know she could be on the phone now begging him to take her back.
You should keep a respectful distance from her for at least a few months, I think. If you did get back together now, you could be just her rebound and you don't want that.
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