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My ex is back in my life, and I don't really want her there

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Question - (25 March 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 March 2010)
A male Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey guys and gals,

Recently my ex-girlfriend contacted me.

We haven't spoken in 8 months or so, (she broke up with me).

Now she Kind of entered my life again, she had a very nasty time last couple of months. She kind of blamed me for not being there, however I was trying to forget her. And I dont think I was being unreasonable in any way.

We had a talk on IM , she claims that she still misses me, and that she never stopped thinking about me, bla bla.

Now I dont know what to do, meet up with her? tell her just to be friends ?

I just dont want to get hurt again, and I dont really think that being friends is an option, being friends with an ex girlfriend is weird and complicated, and someone winds up getting hurt again.

cheers

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 March 2010):

Honeypie agony auntThere is a reason she is your ex. To be honest I would not open up that can of worms again.

SHE broke up with you, ergo it was HER choice to NOT have you in HER life. Stop taken the blame for something that is so out of your hands.

I would tell her that you don't feel being friends is something you are interested in, that you need to move on with your life.

Then I would honestly block her IM/FB, her phone number and whatnot and TRULY move on with my life.

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A female reader, tmama United States +, writes (25 March 2010):

honey heres the thing she didnt talk to you for 8 month not untill she started having problems now she wants talk. YOURR THE FRIEND/// GIVE IT up find someone that wants you more then a friend

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (25 March 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntBe civil to her because it is better to have a friend than an enemy in this world.

Who knows someday she may come in useful or could help you in the future.

Don't step on people's toes because you may one day have to lick their asses.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (25 March 2010):

The Realist agony auntYou should just cut contact with her so your life can move forward, also hers will too once she lets go of the thought of you two being together so it better for her in the end as well. Tell her that any sort of relationship is not going to work, try to be sensitive and that you two should move on. Your right to think of how complicated having her back in your life would be because you know she'll push for more then just friends.

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