A
female
age
36-40,
*i3696
writes:I broke up with my x boyfriend about 2 months ago due to the fac that i was become unhappy with the relationship and began to get bothered with the "close' friendship him and his girlfriends were having. We stopped the communication for about 2 weeks. I began to get private calls on my cell back to back everyday for the past 3 weeks. Came to find out it was him calling and not saying anything. In honest truth i missed him dearly. One night we saw each other exchanged hellos and went our seperate ways. He called he that same night and we hooked up. Ever since then began slowly speaking again, but nothing was confirmed about our relationship. Meanwhile during the break i met someone who i enjoyed hang out with but made it clear i didnt want anything at the time. Yesterday my new friend and I went to play volleyball at a park and from a distance i saw my x's office mate notice me. I felt uncomfortable but went with my evening game. I got home and say my x call. He called again private and than not private insulting me with all words possible. He told me he was now going to move on an get back with his 1st love and move on. He told me to leave him alone that he was going to take this matter perhaps a restraining order... I do fill slightly guilty letting him back into my life but i still care for him but i wasnt going to limit myself from meeting new people. Im extreamly bothered Please help?
View related questions:
broke up, move on, notice me Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, di3696 +, writes (3 August 2007):
di3696 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. I find it hard to discuss this matter with him since at the end of all this his exact words were, "leave me alone, im getting back with my x and moving on". I agree a good man is hard to find, but i think this has taken a toll for both of us. Thanks!
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): You should out you self in his shoes, you "hooked up" within and then your still out with other men. His co-worker caught you and of course he was going to get upset. Missing around with a lot of people does not say a lot about you. He should move on to avoid dealing with some who is not looking for a relationship. YOu should also becareful, there are so many STD's out there that you are leaving your self exposed. I actually work in law enforcement. He is able to get a restraning order if he feels that you posses a threat or a extreme bother. The court would issue with out calling you first. It looks like he is the one that has hurt, you should leave him alone.
...............................
A
female
reader, di3696 +, writes (3 August 2007):
di3696 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Midge for your wonderful advice!
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): It sounds like he caught you in the act. You should found out what made him flip out on you and try to clear the situation up. I would hangin out with the new man in your life as it may bring more problems for you and the new guy.Sounds like you still care for the guy, if his is worth it, try and try again, a good man is hardto find.
...............................
A
female
reader, Midge  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Why do you feel bothered that he is acting like a toddler. So he phones you and has a go at you on the phone without actually finding out the whole story. How immature is that!!!
If he was so concerned about what you were doing there with someone else, then he should have at least given you the opportunity to explain, so there isnt really anything you could have done.
As for getting a restraining order against you, how childish is that!!! Let him try, because no judge would give him a restraining order without good reason, and I doubt he has good reason.
Go on with your life and meet new people! Dont worry about him and for heaven sake, dont feel bad. He should act his age and not his shoe size!
...............................
|
