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female
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30-35,
*r_girl
writes:i need some serious advice!!!after a while not talking to my ex, i decided to show him that i still loved him and wanted him back.he talked to me on the phone (we live in different cities) like a friend, but whenever i tried to say something about how i felt, he changed subjects.i finally got to say what i wanted, and he said he was doing fine, and it was best for me not to try to get him back.i told him i rescpected him decision.today, i was cleaning my wardrobe and found some old pictures of him. so i sent it to him via e-mail.he answered saying he was so happy i sent those pictures... he said he only had reasons to thank me, that i am special and that i deserve to find someone that makes me happy, like he wasn't able to make me. he appologised for every tear i shed for him, and said he kept every photo, letter and gift i gave him...we talked for a while after, in a friendly way... and he said he missed me and my family...after today, do you guys think i have a shot in getting him back together? what should i do next?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 No there is no chance of getting back together. He has even told you it is best for you not to try to get back - how more clear can he be?!
Let it go and move on, there is nothing left here so give yourself some space from him and allow yourself time to get over him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 December 2011):
 What should you do next?
Nothing.
Consider: he told you it is best for you not to try get him back, so he has evidently moved on. In view of your most recent conversation when you sent him the photos, he evidently feels bad that things didn't work out between you.
You have to be a little careful not to think that missing you necessarily means he wants to reconnect. Not only that, but what about the problems/issues that caused the split in the first place? Unless they can be resolved to both your satisfaction, getting back together would most likely result in the issues surfacing again.........
If, on the other hand, he HAS changed his mind and wants to resume the relationship he will let you know.
You have made your position clear. You'd be well-advised to drop it now and not pressure him. The ball is in his court, one way or the other.
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