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*Corbi8
writes:I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years now. I love her very much but in the past year I've found myself less and less attracted to her physically. About three months ago, we had a huge row in which she accused me of being distant toward her (I was) and I ended up telling her the truth. We "broke up" for all of half a day before we both realised we love each other and wanted to work through our issues. This was a mutual decision and one I don't regret. Since then I've taken up playing soccer after years out of playing. There's a girl on my team that I know is gay, is great looking and really athletic - just my type - and I get the feeling she likes me. I like her too and have thought many times about something happening but I could never cheat on my girlfriend. The thing is, it's not even about this girl; she's just a catalyst for what's lacking in the relationship for me. I can't seem to stop myself from wondering if I would be better off single? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2019): What you're missing is the excitement factor. That isn't coming back. You can have it with someone new but it'll go away if you stay with them for a few years. If you want to chase the rush then break up with your girlfriend but know that you'll keep chasing it until you eventually accept that it's a temporary high. Maybe you're young enough that that is more important to you to get out of your system. No judgement, but understand what decision you're making and why. Be certain you want to break up and don't mess your girlfriend around with breaking up and coming back over and over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2019): Considering you managed half a day apart before you rekindled I think maybe you are just feeling insecure without a replacement and now that youve seen someone who you could envision as a replacement you are toying with the idea of considering yourself single.
It may be that you lack committment.
It sounds a bit like you want to have your cake and eat it.
Your current girlfriend will find someone else also if you break up.
I think you need to ask yourself if you want casual relationships or if you want to stay in a committed relationship.
I dont think you think deeply about your current girlfriends feelings so technically she would be better off without you after the heartache was over unless she has her eye on someone else too.
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