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writes:(Moderator note: please note the nationality of the question-asker before answering)I have a boyfriend. I love him alot, but his parents torture me and are abusing me. They hate me but my bf loves me alot and I also love himBut his parents do not accept our relationshipI got engaged in 2 yearsI cant love the guy who is my fiancéeIm so confused what can I do?Please tell me
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Is there any chance that you and you BF can immigrate to a country where you will not be controlled, tortured and abused?
Arranged marriages are not common to most of the world, and very difficult for many of us to really understand, as most of the western world believes that a husband and wife should freely choose each other, and that women are not for barter, abuse or torture.
Make the best of the situation, you will have to understand the ramifications of attempting to not go through with the arranged marriage.
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reader, bernergirl  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Wow! That's a lot to comprehend. Please know that even if you are in Saudi Arabia, I do not know cultures so I don't want to advise you something that could injure or harm you further. This is what I do know....LOVE DOESN'T HURT! NO ONE SHOULD EVER ABUSE YOU....EVER! IT IS NEVER OK!
Having said that can you speak to your boyfriend? I would tell you that if it is your boyfriend you want to be with and he wants to be with you? Then you need to get out and seek refuge in a different country. Being from the states I would go to the U.S. Embassy and see if they can help. Definitely speak with who you love. That is your best opportunity of having a support system around you. Then make a plan, research it, think of everything that could go wrong and plan in advance. See if there are shelters or non-profit groups that will help you, protect you, then I would leave. please keep me updated. I wish you luck.
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reader, GG96 +, writes (30 January 2011):
Hmmm I have never been in that situation. You could go to your parents and have them break the engagement, break it yourself (idk if you can do that though) or just deal with whatever they throw at you and stand tall.
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