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26-29,
*melia-jaye
writes:me and my boyfriend have been together almost 10months now.. We spend abit of time together every week, I see him 4 days out of 7.. We get very heated.. We've been doing sexual 'activities' for a few months, nothing to far.. But the past 2 times he's came round.. He seems to get really carried away with it all and.. Never tells me when he's about you, 'blown his load' like he used to.. So, always makes a mess.. I've told him that I don't want him to get to that point because, well.. My parents are usually in and it has a very distinctive smell.. Plus it's just messy and awkward to clean up.. But it's always after he has 'blown him load' he generally acts really strangly.. Like he's deep in thought.. I asked him whats wrong, he said he just worries to much.. He says he worries that he'll get to carried away..I asked him if he wanted to go further because I'm unsure of what he's worried about or why he gets so carried away and tries new things.. He said he doesn't know if he wants to go further because he hasn't thought about that kinda thing.. I really don't know what he's thinking, he panics and worried about things.. When I ask about them..i'm unsure on how to make him open up and talk to me about the sexual side of our relationship/what he want in the 'bedroom', at the time he'll says it feels good, but if it's not at the time it's happening, he won't talk about it and dodges the subject..Does anyone have any ideas on why this is? Or what he worries so much about?Thank you inadvance, AmeJay Reply to this Question
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 you haven't said what it is that you're doing but i assume its some variation of oral sex or handjobs. guys do generally know when they are about to cum (well, I always do) and so he doesn't really have a good reason for not giving fair warning.
what does he think about? its impossible to say. maybe he's worried. maybe he feels guilt about being too young to do what you are doing if that is your real age. it could any number of things.
i was sexually active from a very young age myself and i'm not sure that didn't screw up my attitude to sex in general. you should also consider whether you want to go further sexually.
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