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writes: Help! I'm living with my boyfriend. He is 26 and I am 35 years of age. I've had to move two times because when ever we argue, he yells, screams, and or damages the apartment. I've lost about 2500 dollars in security deposit and damages. He has also damaged some of my personal belongings. He says he suffers from anger management problems and he is trying to work on it. He says he loves and he wants to marry me, but he is always talks about moving out and breaking up when we argue. I also feel unloved whenever he acts violent and says really hurtful things. I love him, but my love is dying out because I'm tired of tolerating his behavior. I feel he has a lot of potential but I'm not sure of when he'll change. I'm not getting any younger. What should I do?
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reader, missdee +, writes (24 September 2005):
There is a fine line between love and hate and this guy is really pushing it. You deserve better. You don't need to marry this guy as it will not serve to make the situation any better. I urge you to get out before it gets any worse.
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reader, Happygoddess +, writes (20 September 2005):
You remind me of Renee' Zellwiger in the movie Jerry McGuire when she says "I love him for the man he almost is and for the person I wish he would be"...
Do you know there are plenty of men with "lots of potential" who know how to react appropriately to anger without subjecting you to violent outbursts? I strongly urge you to read the writing on the wall in this relationship and get out before his lack of impulse control affects you in an even more dramatic way. Please take charge of your life and be good to yourself. You deserve better.
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