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writes:Me and my boyfriend went out for 14 months then we broke up but while we were together he would never tell me how he's feeling or if something was wrong with him, I couldn't even ask how was he becuz he would hate me asking. The thing about it is that he can tell another girl how's he's feeling and all this other stuff but he couldn't tell me. Is that normal? Was I wrong for trying to make him open up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen he talked to other girl bout his feelings I dnt kno wat he was sayin becuz he didn't do it in person, it was always over the fone. Thanks so much for both of your advice and I will try it and see how it goes.
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reader, peace love nsn +, writes (10 August 2010):
well mabey he just isn't the type that say I love you 24 7. most guys aren't like that. nd what sucks is that we all want that type of boy. when he talked to other girls did he talk about how much he loved you or did hem talk about the fact that he didn't like you? and if you really want a guy who pores his heart out for you look for that special some one. I'm sure you'll find him in time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): I have too been in this situation. What you are dealing with is known as an 'emotionally closed man' (look it up on google)
Some men close up and seem to see there emotions as some kind of weakness, some are just to scared of getting hurt.
Think about it have you ever put a 'guard' up when unsure about falling in love. maybe not a guard but you try so hard to control your feelings. its a way of protecting yourself.
Its a very difficult situation to be in trust me i know, and im sorry but most the time they cant change.
He has to learn how to deal with feelings and enjoy them, because hes the one missing out on the feeling of falling in love. My advice would be to talk to him, try and see why he is doing it, explain to him that youre starting to feel like hes shutting you out...which is what hes doing. talking about it could help him open up. hes probably been hurt in the past and dosent want to be hurt again. He probably just needs abit of reasurrance.
Best of luck!
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