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writes:i am 20 yrs old and i just found out i am pregnant. we used a condom and it broke. i took the day after pill and that didnt work. the guy wants to get rid of it because he's not ready. i haven't told my parents yet but i will sometime this week. he said he's scared and he doesnt want to be labeled like the rest of the young parents but i can't get over the fact that i might regret it one day. all my friends tell me not to listen to him and do what i feel and they will always be there to support me but is that enough? im in the process of becoming an athletic trainer and i have a bright future ahead of me so will a baby hold me back? help plz
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): keep your baby , he will get used to it , i no when my boyfriend was unsupportive i just said to him i really want this baby and if you really do care for me you wil let me keep it my baby girl has been born now and she is the most beautiful thing i have ever seen and my boyfriend regrets ever sayign to me get rid of it , our baby has brought our family closer.its up to you what you do but being a mother is the best thing ever i wouldn't change that for the world , love emily age 21 x
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reader, sophie-lee  +, writes (21 July 2008):
Well your boyfriend is entitled to feelings and an opinion granted ! however you do need to think about yourself in many ways financally,emotionally and like you said you have great prospects in your future, One day yes your right you may regret aborting your baby however it may be a blessing in disguise as you can continure working towards a bigger,better carrear and 20 is not that young really and you would not be lableled as a young parent concidering people my age and younger are having thier own children ! sericously you need to think of every aspect yes take your parnters ideas,feeling into context however you are the mother the person that will be carrying this baby for 9 months as well as the rest of your life its hard but i hope all turns out well...x
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 it depends on ur weakness and strengths. some can handle single motherhood like a professional, others are just not made for it. it also depends at what stage u are in life.its sad yes, how a lot of guys whine about the responsibility of being a parent so young, yet they have no problem acting out the adult behaivior of sexual intercourse! but truth be told, he wont be facing life changes, it will be u. i had an abortion when i was 19, married and unhappy. do i regret it? not ever. and nobody makesme feel guilty because i never allow them. at the end of the day dear, u need to ask urself, just whos burden is it? u may have family and friends round whoall make wonderful promises and all to help, but it boils down to this harsh reality. they all have lives too. and nobodys going to leave their night shift job to come relieve u of a colicky crying sick baby, because ur tired or overwhelmed.there is NO SUCH THING as a selfish decision.do what is right for YOU.and the rest of the world can bitch and whine, but at the end of the day, u feel confident u did the right thing. for u. not because they felt strongly about abortion, or adoption etc. or that they never make u forget how selfish u were. u need to think of where u r at, now, career wise, financially, emotionally etc. and where u will be in the next 5 yrs if u keep the baby, and just so u know, its ok to be selfish and ask urself, how will u feel being a single mom, are u cut out for it, are u even readfy for it etc.be strong. and dont be swayed or misled by the opinions of others. no matter how well meaning they may seem to be. its ur problem, ur burden, at the end of the day. not theres. so u should be entitled to be the one to make the decision, guilt free. no strings atached.
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reader, PrettyInPink44 +, writes (20 July 2008):
PrettyInPink44 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've been together for some months now. but before he was all talk about how he "thinks we would have cute kids", "if I ever got pregnant and got an abortion he wouldnt talk to me" but now its totally opposite.
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