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writes:My boyfriend has been sent to MCTC in Colchester for 3 months. Th elast time I saw him as last Thursday when he went to court he was then taken that day. He is allowed one 10 min call a week and one visit per week - I ma finding it so hard as I haen't heard from him apart from a really rushed call when her arrived. Is anyone in the same situation and how bad is it in there all I can do is imagine what he is goi through I love him and wish I couls just speka to him its awful. Reply to this Question
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reader, ChloeLouise92 +, writes (24 June 2010):
I'm in exactly the same situation! My boyfriend decided to go travelling with 2 friends for 3 months, and he has been away for 2 and a half already. It will be hard at first, especially as you're used to being able to see/speak to him often, but TRUST ME it gets easier. You'll get used to him not being around and not being able to speak as much, so just look forward to the times when you can talk. Also, you could skype him if that is possible? Just go out and have fun as much as you can to take your mind off it and the time will definately fly by - I did and my boyfriend is back in 2 weeks :D stay happy babe and think positive!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 July 2008):
It will fly past, it's only 12 weeks.
Write him letters and keep yourself busy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 I was in the same situation when I went to spend my last Christmas with my family in a road trip. I only had a phone with 250 minutes that everyone used and I had to make the minutes last for 8 days. I decided to make the calls last for 25 minutes and still leave spare mintues for my family. It was hard for me to just spend those 25 minutes to talk with my boyfriend because of course I wanted to tell him so many things but we had so little time. I missed him so much and I kept on wanting to hear him, but I could only do it for 25 minutes.
The way I did it is I tried to make the time we had into quality time. Many people would tell you that they don't care for how long you spend time with someone, as long as you're having fun and feeling happy at that time. Many will tell you that they would dread 15 minutes with someone they hate, but would gladly change those minutes for 5 minutes to spend with someone they love.
Of course, I still wanted more, but I was still so glad that those 25 minutes I spent with him were fantastic. You should try to do the same. Every time you talk to him, just try to feel happy and make him feel happy. When you talk to him, don't nag him or make him angry or make him feel guilty. Tell him the most important events or the stuff you really want to tell him.
You could make a list of the important things you want to tell him so you won't forget them and you would not feel guilty. Just make him feel happy.
Because of the situation your boyfriend is in, he will lose hope from many things. Please, if you love him, assure him that you'll never leave him. Assure him that you'll always love him and that you'll wait for him. Always tell him you'll be there for him.
Good luck and please, always tell him you love him. Be strong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Can't you write to each other? This could ease the separation time!
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