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writes:Hi I'm 14 and i have just got my first boyfriend. He is bi and I am gay. I have already come out to all my friends but he hasn't. I don't want our relationship to be a secret but at the same time I think that we will get a lot of shit when we go public. Coming out was ok for me but I am very popular. He has tried to come out once before but he just got teased. He says I can make the final decision. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Q-bag +, writes (5 February 2011):
Q-bag is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much Metoo, I found your answer very helpful.I told him it was up to him and I would love him no matter what he decided to do. He said that we should each tell our close friends and then just act like a couple when our friends hang out.
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 You CAN NOT/SHOULD NOT make that decision for him.
HE has to be the one to do that. If HE'S NOT comfortable with it... then that's just something you are going to have to deal with until such time as he's ready to come out.
DO NOT force him or I'm sure you will both regret it.
If you want to 'help' him come out, when he's ready, then introduce him (as your boyfriend) to your friends who are comfortable with YOU being out.
Metoo stated it best. Love him and be there for him... but don't push him.
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reader, Denizli  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Give him time. I'm pretty sure it's not easy to tell the world you're gay but it has to happen sooner or later. Support him and encourage him to come out to everyone but don't push him because maybe it was easy for you to tell the world you are gay but for some people is just hell. I know it sucks to have to have a secret relationship and not being able to show your loved one how much you feel for them in front of the other people, be patient :)
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