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writes:Well me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and it was kinda odd because he came so fast :| ..i felt this way because before we actually did have sex like a few weeks before he was saying that he felt sorry for me (because he probably thought that i would have cried or something!) He had me thinking that it was big (down there), that he was experienced, he could control himself and he knew he was doing. When we finally did it for the first time he was shaking, he seemed nervous and confused, he kept slipping out, and when he came like 20 mins later he said "thats it" and i was like wtf (disappointed and shocked!) but I didnt show it. I just kissed him and sat down, he was quiet afterwards and kinda day dreaming but I knew something was wrong but I didnt bother.For me, it wasn't my first time. I actually didn't have sex for about 7 to 8 months before me and him did it and he didn't have sex for about 7 or 8 months ( we've been together for 9 months and we're both 18). I don't know if he was too excited , anxious, confused ,inexperienced or he lied about being good at sex or if he was a little dusty because he didn't do it in a while or if i was too wet too tight!!?, or he knows that he cums fast and tried to cover up by telling lies??...i just want to know if its my wetness and tightness..etc that made him cum fast or is it him naturally..and if it's him, how do i tell him to calm down or let him know what's going on (even though he probably knows i wanna bring it to his attention and we could probably work it out)!
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reader, Hanply  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Be patient my friend. I had this problem too, but I always do the best for my girfriend..so don't be suspicious and just give him support.
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reader, phoenix69  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 Hello there so there are so many answers but perhaps he doesnt masterbate when your not around tell him to masterbate 2 hours or 3 hours before then see if hes different. Guys who masterbate more will last longer plus try doing some for play tell him to make you happy you know the things girls like as for making you cry was he really big or just being a guy and thinking it was big guys tend to do that Im gay I should know....
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): you are disappointed because you were expecting better sex.
i last hour, but people who cum early last just like couple minutes...
so idk what past experience, you comparing his performance too, but id say if he's shaking and acting weird just know either you still intimidate him, or you just took his actual virginity, or he was talking a lot to keep expectation going(getting the guy waiting for over half a year is very long), if he was so experience... i believe he'd cheat on you already
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acknowledge he's not really experience(just an average with big ego), and if you love him, go easy on him, he still learning, 20 min is not great but decent... i you want more out of the sex... try sitting on him laying down.
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