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My boyfriend ditches me for his friends. How do I talk to him about it without making him mad?

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Question - (18 October 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 18 October 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend is always ditching me to see his friends.

I see him at most 3 times a week, when i used to be able to see him everyday but now he's at collage, things have changed as the only reason i saw him every day was due to scchool.

He always makes plans with me, so i dont make any and then he leaves me to see his friends. this has been going on for abuout a year now, and i havvent done anything about it, i have spoken to him about it many times. what should i do so i say it so he takes notice but not so he falls out with me. Hes a very stubbern person but i love him so so much

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008):

i used to have the same problem, and he never understood how it made me feel. So i started acting like i didnt care, making plans with other friends and I told him "Maybe you wouldnt care if i did it to you, but you need to understand its something that bothers me and i find it rude and hurtful." that sort of made him understand. But then he started feeling left out and we see eachother everyday. he takes me out to dinner a lot and stuff like that. the best thing to do is really explain your feelings to him very nicely, and if he starts hetting angry or defensive, stay calm and just say "im trying to explain how you are making me feel and i would appreciate it if you didnt get angry. there isnt any reason to get angry." it worked for me.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008):

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but he doesnt go out with collage friends, he goes out with friends he see's everynight after collage from hiss old school

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