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writes:Okay, I'm 13. My boyfriend's 14. The past two nights he's called me a huzzy. A huzzy is a whore. I'd feel kinda better if, ya know, he'd been joking, or apologized. But he hasn't. And he'd been serious about it. My friends say that they would have broke up with him, but i like him too much to do that. So what do i do? xoxo -Cheyenne
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reader, CheyenneNicole13 +, writes (20 December 2010):
CheyenneNicole13 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay, i took yall's advice. He said that he was only aggravating me and that he didn't mean it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): first thing..13 and 14 years old...and said to you "whore".please leave that "kid"..you deserve respect..but if you think you are so little thing and don't deserve it..please go on...
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reader, rcn +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Did you ask him why he was calling you that? If you don't have the nerve, text it or email it. You cannot just hang there while your boyfriend disrespects you. That's not how life should be for you. If you keep not having nerve, when you get older you are going to have a real hard time with guys. It's also dangerous to who you are, because when you hold it in you're suppressing how you feel, and it will build and build until you explode.
You say you like him to much. You'll find out there are sometimes guys that you like, but having them as a boyfriend may not be the best for you. You don't need to start sacrificing yourself, who you are, or how you view yourself for a guy. You are always in charge of how others treat you. You have a choice, "be treated how you deserve" and "don't associate with those you do not."
I hope this helps. Take care.
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reader, CheyenneNicole13 +, writes (19 December 2010):
CheyenneNicole13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.
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reader, smminnieme  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Hi Cheyenne,
im 14, so i know exactly how you are feeling. Noway does he have the right to call you names like this even if he is joking, your his girlfriend so he should respect you, which he isnt doing at the moment!
If you just let him call you these names he knows he will get away with it and carry on..
so confront him, i know its hard and VERY nerve-racking, something which a teenage girl finds hard to do, so if you cant talk to him just send him a text or email and tell him how you feel and you want to know what he means by this comment..
Hope things turn out okaii xxx
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reader, marcia99116 +, writes (19 December 2010):
 If you do not feel bold enough to talk to him - dump him. Because what happens when he starts hitting you? Where do you draw the line on what kind of behavior you will tolerate?
Tolerating name calling is like asking a bully to be your best friend. Once they realize the can bully you with their words what will stop them from taking the next step.
You have to realize you deserve a man who will talk sweetly and nice to you. That realizes you are a worthy person and counts themselves lucky to have you in their life. That is what a relationship is supposed to be like.
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reader, CheyenneNicole13 +, writes (19 December 2010):
CheyenneNicole13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. But i don't think i have the nerve to confront him about it.....
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reader, marcia99116 +, writes (19 December 2010):
Confront him on it... although I cannot imagine this having some kind of form of compliment men can be strange sometimes. If you tell him, um I don't like it when you call me a huzzy - what do you mean by that? He should then explain what he means... if he laughs you off and continues calling you this name after you have explained how it makes you feel - dump him.
If you like him and he doesn't respect you and is calling you names... that means you do not respect yourself if you stay in a relationship with him. This could turn into an abusive relationship if you do not inform him of how this word makes you feel. No one is worth it if they are disrespecting you... it only goes down hill from their.
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