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writes:please help! my boyfriend and I just had a big fight. All because he thought I was accusing him of taking something of mine which I wasnt. Ok so basically 2 weeks ago I came home and I took my class ring off that my mom gave me and I put it on the kitchen counter, I know its my fault for not putting it in a jewlery box but I had left it there for a few days, then all of the sudden it was gone. I have looked every where, behind the stove, all over the floor and in all the rooms. Prior to that he couldnt find somthing of his either. he kepped asking me if I had seen it but I had never even seen what it was that was missing. So anyways, I thought to myself that maybe he had thought I took his item and maybe he took my ring to get back at me. I know that is bad to think but I was trying to think of all the possible options. Today I asked him if maybe that had been the case. OMG! all hell broke loose, he got so offended and got really upset and left to go to work. A little while later he called me after he had calmed down and asked me if I thought he really took my ring. I said no I just wanted to ask to see if maybe he remembered moving it or something. He then said " ok thats all I needed to know" and then bye and hung up. I just dont know what to say to him to make him talk to me because I dont want him to think that I am accusing him of being a theif or just throwing my ring away cause he was mad or somehting. Tell me how I should handle this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Too right Trish, you've accused him of being a theif, how the hell dose he feel now. His girlfriend dosen't trust him and thinks that he would take some thing of hers. GROVEL AS IF YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON IT. You made a big mistake when you doubted him.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 August 2008):
 I think you owe your boyfriend a huge apology. You may have to grovel a bit to get across how sorry you are. You need to acknowledge that you thought the worst of him. You did suspect him of doing what you asked, and now you can't take those words back. It's out, he knows, and is offended, with good reason.
Try to talk to him face to face if you can. If you can't, then you can try on the phone. If he won't talk on the phone, you're going to need to write your apology. Make it sincere, acknowledge that you are the one at fault and that you wish you had never suggested that he had any evil motives.
Good luck.
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