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reader, dan102938 +, writes (16 May 2005):
Maybe he could feel comfortable with his friends and maybe he feels so nervous around the person who he loves and cares about....at least that's how I feel about the girl I like and my friends.
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (14 May 2005):
It's gotta be one of two things. He might feel like he has to hug the girls or they'll think he's mean, and he's more comfortable with you (some people don't like hugs, I don't know why). More likely, he's taking you for granted. He might not even realize it (I'll give him the benefit of the doubt). But it goes for anyone. If you don't stand up for yourself, you will get stepped on. I am the submissive type myself, but there are times where if you don't say something you'll suffer in silence.
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (14 May 2005):
Im thinking one of three things, he's either trying to get you to dump him by acting like an idiot, he's gay or he's really nervous around you because he likes you so much. I havent met the guy obviously so I dont know but Id have a think about these things. I would anyway.
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reader, Dear auntie +, writes (14 May 2005):
Poor you, this must feel very odd and a bit hurtful. Have you asked him why he does this? Perhaps you could try the same when you meet other guys - it might be a wake up call for him. Does he not hug you even when you're alone? Perhaps he is trying to demonstrate that he is his own man, or perhaps he just wants to make you jealous, in which case he may be the one who is insecure. Keep your cool and front him about it. Can you ask any of these girls what they think about your guy hugging them? Do they get any choice in the matter? I feel for you.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (14 May 2005):
 Ask him! It isn't exactly the actions of a boy-friend, not to hug you.Ask him why he feels the need to be familiar with other girls but not you. More than likely he will not have an altogether positive response which may require you to dump him. At least that way, he can continue hugging other girls to his heart's content and you won't have to worry why he isn't affectionate with you.Take care.
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reader, sunshine +, writes (14 May 2005):
Personally, you're boyfriend doesnt seem to be as interested in you as he is with other girls. He could possibly be afraid of committing to just one girl, in this case, that one girl being you. Talking to him and telling him that you are upset with his actions might help. Just be sure not to accuse him for anything. Get to know the facts first. Another possibility might be that he knows he already "has" you. He might feel that he doesnt have to be all touchy and affectionate with you because its just not necessary all the times in relationships. Or maybe his way of best communicating with other girls is by hugging them. The best thing to do about this is to talk about it. Find out whats really going on...then you'll be able to fix this best.
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