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writes:Hey guys,Basically I have feelings for my best friends (She's a girl and I'm a guy). We have so much in common, we are basically the same person and I love spending time with her. She's so pretty and amazing, and this came about for me about a few months ago, I kept it to myself (and went insane over it), then one night when we were both drunk I told her how I felt, and she felt the same, but she didn't want to start anything because it would just end up in someone getting hurt. But I wouldn't let anyone hurt her, not even myself. But I think she feels that way cause of her last boyfriend, who was so horrible to her. I hate him for what he did. If anything he's ruined her chance for happiness. Anyway, I was just looking for any advice or past experiences that could help me through dealing with this. I would kill to be with her, she means the world to me. Can I also throw in that we NEVER argue, we NEVER fall out. That's why I think it could work. But she's also my only close friend, and I don't want to lose that. I didn't plan on these feelings coming back. But I've been unhappy all my life, I've had a shite childhood and hate who and what I've become. But she could make me happy, and I would make her happy. So please any advise would be ideal. Thanks x
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reader, pinkpoodlekiss  +, writes (19 November 2010):
You really need to rethink this. If I were you I would consider counseling. I say this to you with compassion. No one can make you happy. You have to learn to be comfortable all by yourself.You really don't want to loose your best friend. If you took your friendship to a different level and things didn't work out you would lose her as a friend.There are counseling services that offer counseling for free or at a reduced rate. If your childhood was rough counseling would be a great option to help you adjust.Good Luck to you.
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reader, BigMac92 +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Okay well first off i was in the same boat your afew months ago. She was my closest friend and i thought it was going good until she said I was like her brother. To make things worse she started dating my best friend(he didnt know how I felt about her). So the best advice I can give is to keep resuring her that you wont do what her ex did and dont be afraid to wait alittle bit.
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