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writes: my girlfriend and i are having problems understanding each other. she hates my mum and now i can't mention her because otherwise she goes wierd on me and gets in a mood. also, i feel that i have to tread carefully so's not to annoy her but when i'm annoyed, she dismisses it. please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Jenny Wren +, writes (25 October 2006):
 Do you know why she hates your Mum? Has your Mum offended her in some way, or is your girlfriend perhaps linking with feelings/perceptions from the past and reacting as if the same thing is happening now? (Perhaps she has experienced offensive behaviour from other partners' parents, or even her own?).
In any case it is important that you discuss it calmly so that it can be sorted out. Try letting each other talk without interruption, taking turns. If this is too difficult, each of you writing a letter to express how you feel can be useful (and it never does any harm to include a chocolate or some other little treat with the letter, to show that you care).
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): why dusnt she like ur mum..she shud giv her a chance...ur mum raised u...if there is a reason then its ok..i suggest u sit her down n speak to her..but if she dusnt like ur mum for no reason..then dude..this gurl needs to sort her self out...she shud accept evryhting abt u..includin ya mum!...really speak to her..ther must be a gud reason...most girlfreinds n mums get on bu then agen most dont eiva...jus chat n see hw it goes...good luck..freind x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): Hi,
I had a relationship quite like yours once.
It took me two full miserable years of my life to understand the following:
1) Family
2) Friends
3) Girlfriend
Number three becomes number one if all goes well. If not....then let it be....
A girlfriend will never beat your friends or family.
Think about it: The people that are there for you when things go wrong are your friends and family.
Good luck!
someguy - Netherlands
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