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writes:Hi all! Here is my problem. I broke up with my girlfriend about two weeks ago. We were together for a year and three months. We were having problems for the last month and we were working hard to overcome them. Just when happiness started coming back to our relationship we had a huge fight. I broke up with because I was too furious to think clearly. Later I came to her begging for forgiveness. I asked her to take me back. She said that she would take me back because she loves me and wants to be with me and that she will always remember me as her best boyfriend ever but her experience has taught her that when she gives a guy another chance it’s all the same. I think that I am different from her past boyfriends and that we could be happy again. She says that it is possible but she se is afraid of more pain. I told her that I understand her although I didn’t. We both cried, she kissed me on the cheek, we hugged and went our own ways. Now two weeks have passed and I miss her so much that I can’t even tell you. I want her back! What should I do?
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reader, Manya  +, writes (14 February 2008):
Never lose hope! I was so sorry to hear that you are sounhappy about the turn of events. You never can tell, time will tell if she will ever see thelight, or if you will meet someone you will love even moredeeply.In the meantime, I wish you a Happy Valentine's Day,I hope that love and happiness will find you a.s.a.p.!!In a world such as ours, ideals are to be cherished more thanever, but this girl wasn't so perfect: she didn't realizewhat she had.
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 True love exists and it can happen more than once in a lifetime too! We just have to hold on tight when we have it! Make the most of your life and never loose hope.
God bless you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to believe in true love but right now all my ideals have been destroyed. She is already seeing some other guy although she says he's just friend. I think that she is lost for me but I just can't accept it. She was so perfect ...
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reader, Manya +, writes (4 February 2008):
You sound like you really love her, being afraid that she'll be instantaneously "snapped up" be another man! I agree with Annalisa that if she truly loves you, then she won't get over you so quickly! If she loves you then she will be open to reconciliation.
Maybe you should shower her with flowers and gifts and
even poems (your own or classics or songs...)
She may've had some extremely bad fights in the past.
Perhaps you should consider talking to a counselor about why you had a huge fight just as things were getting happy?
Search for answers within yourself.
Be patient, as "the course of true love ne'er ran smooth"
and sometimes it takes awhile for relationships to work themselves out. Love will find a way, if it's meant to be.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (4 February 2008):
If she truely loves you, she won't be able to fall for another guy. Even if she dated someone else, it takes a long time to get over someone we never stopped loving!
If she does, maybe you two weren't meant to be and you'll just have to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told her that but it will take time before she can notice that I have changed. I am afraid that she will find someone else by that time.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (4 February 2008):
You need to address the things you do that hurt her in the past, accept we're all wrong sometimes and make a concious effort to change. Think about this carefully, then talk to her and clearly state the things you intend to change, so she can be sure you are really trying. The point is that it's easy to say "things will get better", it's important, however, to say "I tend to be selfish and get mad if you want things a way different from mine. I will try to stop and think more. If you're willing to let me have my way sometimes, I will listen to you more and let you have your way to".
Does that make sense? God bless you and good luck!
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