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Me and my ex want to be together but she is afraid that I will hurt her again.

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Question - (4 February 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 February 2008)
A male Slovenia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi all! Here is my problem. I broke up with my girlfriend about two weeks ago. We were together for a year and three months. We were having problems for the last month and we were working hard to overcome them. Just when happiness started coming back to our relationship we had a huge fight. I broke up with because I was too furious to think clearly. Later I came to her begging for forgiveness. I asked her to take me back. She said that she would take me back because she loves me and wants to be with me and that she will always remember me as her best boyfriend ever but her experience has taught her that when she gives a guy another chance it’s all the same. I think that I am different from her past boyfriends and that we could be happy again. She says that it is possible but she se is afraid of more pain. I told her that I understand her although I didn’t. We both cried, she kissed me on the cheek, we hugged and went our own ways. Now two weeks have passed and I miss her so much that I can’t even tell you. I want her back! What should I do?

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A female reader, Manya United States +, writes (14 February 2008):

Never lose hope! I was so sorry to hear that you are so

unhappy about the turn of events.

You never can tell, time will tell if she will ever see the

light, or if you will meet someone you will love even more

deeply.

In the meantime, I wish you a Happy Valentine's Day,

I hope that love and happiness will find you a.s.a.p.!!

In a world such as ours, ideals are to be cherished more than

ever, but this girl wasn't so perfect: she didn't realize

what she had.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008):

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I would like to believe in true love but right now all my ideals have been destroyed. She is already seeing some other guy although she says he's just friend. I think that she is lost for me but I just can't accept it. She was so perfect ...

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A female reader, Manya United States +, writes (4 February 2008):

You sound like you really love her, being afraid that she'll be instantaneously "snapped up" be another man! I agree with Annalisa that if she truly loves you, then she won't get over you so quickly! If she loves you then she will be open to reconciliation.

Maybe you should shower her with flowers and gifts and

even poems (your own or classics or songs...)

She may've had some extremely bad fights in the past.

Perhaps you should consider talking to a counselor about why you had a huge fight just as things were getting happy?

Search for answers within yourself.

Be patient, as "the course of true love ne'er ran smooth"

and sometimes it takes awhile for relationships to work themselves out. Love will find a way, if it's meant to be.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008):

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I told her that but it will take time before she can notice that I have changed. I am afraid that she will find someone else by that time.

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