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anonymous
writes:Hi Cupids. Can you give me some advice on how to handle a married man who I see everyday? We are both in relationships but have had an attraction between us. I do not want it to go any further. I have tried to distance myself in the past but keep getting roped back in. When I ignore him, he doesn't like it and he tries to reel me in again. If I show interest, he will distance himself. I need for this roller coaster ride of emotions to go away. It is not right or healthy for either of us or our relationships. It has to end because nothing will ever come of it. Any advice for me on how to handle it? I must see him regularly. There is no way around that. This is what makes it that much harder. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Tell him that you're going to ask his wife why he can't take a hint and see if she has any suggestions... that might work.
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Okay I am going to say something that might be odd. But I have had this problem and I have threatened protective orders and nothing works with these guys. So here is what I do, I would tell him that unless he stops you are going to have to get others involved, other than an occasional hello, do not respond to him. And then you need to tell! Make it public, the more you tell the more power you take out of their hands. Tell your boss, colleagues, your partner. They will stop it for you. He might get mad, might not understand but they will get the hint. I hope this helps. Its just a suggestion. I have found that the more people who learn of their inappropriate or strange behavior the more people are watching him to make sure he doesn't misbehave. For example, now every time Lindsay Lohan walks into a jewelry store they are going to watch her like a hawk.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 The Walking Dude gave you very good advice. Tell him very clearly just what you told us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): If you really mean it then just tell him very clearly that you do not want a romantic relationship with him. You can't expect him to think you're not interested if you carry on showing interest.
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reader, newaunty +, writes (9 February 2011):
Try telling him you're uncomfortable with his actions and see if he backs off , if not tell him you're not going near him anymore and stand by it . Don't let him reel you in all over again .
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Ouch. Sticky situation. You just need to be upfront with him and tell him you're happy in one way or another. If you dont want to come right out and say "You dont have a chance".. when you talk to him..bring up weekend plans about you and your husband on purpose, let him know you're happy at home. He will eventually get the hint!
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