A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My parents own a restaraunt here in town and I moved up here (about an hour away from my hometown) to come up and be the store manager. It has been difficult for me as I am only 21 and didn't know anyone in this town, but I started becoming friends with some employees to help me get used to being out here and to help get me socializing again. My parents don't have a problem with me being friends with our employees, but obviously they would have a problem with me dating any of them. But of course, I have been dating one of my employees for a couple of months now. At first I said it wouldn't be serious and it would probably just fizzle out, but instead it has gone on for the past couple of months and our feelings for each other are only intensifying. I'm scared that if my parents find out, I will lose my job and my career. But I also don't want to ask my boyfriend to quit this job that he really does enjoy and do well at. And at the same time I wonder how serious a relationship that has to be kept a secret can ever be. I do like him. I'm not head-over-heels or falling in love by any means, but still not wanting to throw this out the window. I know my parents don't think too highly of him (except as a worker) and would tell me I can do better. Not only that, but they would be furious that I was dating an employee. I don't want to keep us a secret forever. And yet I am so afraid that I'm screwing up my whole life over this. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2009):
Sit down and listen in silence in what your heart is telling you. If this is true love, the prospect of losing your job won't be so daunting, as you know that at your age it is possible to retrain in another career. However, if it does seem incredibly daunting, or if this relationship is something that isn't all the special, then you might be better ending it.
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