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Manager at work going behind my back and giving my work to others

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Question - (6 September 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 September 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Can anyone help with a work situation.

I was bullied for nearly 2 years by 3 older women in my office, I was moved into my own room because my work load changed and because of them. They always had a real problem with me and my manager never done anything about it because there was 3 of them and 1 of me and he wanted to send me on a course to learn to communicate with people. His boss seen what was going on and he was the one who had me moved. I have loved my job for the past year and I get on with everyone except them. I found out last week that my manager has given something that I do to one of these women behind my back and he hasn't told me why, I am so upset that he has done this. I should have confronted him last week, instead I let it build up inside me and took it out on everyone else, I now feel really stupid and he has probably heard about it, you now what offices are like for gossip. I now that managers can give work to who ever they want but if he is happy with what I do why would he do this, these women have always wanted to interfere in my work and he has allowed them,I wouldn't have minded if he had of told me, but it was all arranged behind my back. Is there any law/rule that says you must be told about these circumstances, I think it's a joke that he wanted to send of on a course for communication when he clearly can't talk to me. What should I do as he probably knows how angry I am about it, I feel they are laughing at me about it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010):

Sweety that's what they want, dont give them what they want anger. Instead say nothing go on with your days work and dont bother yourself too much with them. Besides i know how you feel i have the same situasion. If you get angry or show reaction they love it. But if you show them no regards what so ever they get so angry because they dont get what they want. These women im talking about were so rude i had anger then tears during the day, and if ure in a relationship it also goes sour. So i have decided that i will not let them walk over me, and its working... All off the best off luck, hope everyting works out fine. good luck

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