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writes:So I've been dating my best guy friend for 2 months now and he's in love with me but I'm tired of him. He's the best guy just not for me and I don't know how or if to brake up with him.Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 The best way is to be honest with him. Here's a couple of links that hopefully will help you tell him sensitively.
http://www.wikihow.com/Break-Up
http://www.wikihow.com/Break-Up-with-Someone-Using-Style-and-Sensitivity
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): I've known him for a 2 years now and i love him as a best friend but not as a boyfriend and I'm tired of pretending. I just want to be alone for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): He will most likely be hurt either way but, just tell him you dont have feelings for him like that you thought it was something but it really wasnt, if after 2 months hes in love with you then he is also moving fast, he is most likely desperate to be in another relationship if he has just ended one, so just be honest and say that you can feel hes not the guy for you. After that if you guys can be friends that great but dont try to be right away. And if he is in love with you he most likely beg for you to stay but dont give in just set your boundaries and tell him hes really not the person for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): 8 weeks and he's kicked to the curb?Tell him that while it seems shallow of you that you know realize that you rushed into this relationship without any concern for his feelings, and now you are going on.You need to make a clean and total break and NOT attempt to put him back into the best friend mode. Trying to do this will cause him massive additional pain. Do not say nice things to comfort him as these will lead him on...He'll be hurt, but you need to separate from him so he can recover.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 When its this early on in the relationship you don't need a long break up speach. Let him know that the feelings just aren't there and that it would be unfair to him to let it go any farther. Be honest, he will get over it and realize it was for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): You're tired of him? That seems like a rather harsh and cruel way to describe your feelings for someone else, especially someone that's your best guy friend. It fact that seems like a very selfish and cold way to describe it, I hope you don't tell him that when you let him know you no longer have feelings for him.
Unfortunately I don't think there is any way to break up with someone that loves/likes you without hurting them, but I guess the best way would to sit down and tell him.
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