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writes:I've been in an on/off relationship for almost 4 years now. We have never really officially to others called each other boyfriend/ girlfriend which doesn't bother me because I know what we have.I love the guy, I'm so happy when i'm with him and want to be with him forever...But I know he doesn't feel the same way - yes he cares but does not love.He knows I will do anything for him and I think he takes advantage of that. We fight constantly - mainly because I get angry/upset as I don't know where I stand or where we are going etc.And even he is getting sick of me being constantly moody. He knows it upsets but nothing ever changes.He tends to avoid emotional talk and can't express him self where as I am constantly telling him how I feel. But now I question does he have problems expressing him emotions or does he just not actually care about me and therefore has nothing to express?But I can't stay mad at him long as I miss him too much and just can't be without him.So therefore the problem constantly gets pushed aside without a resolution.The main reason I avoid it is because I know deep down what he'll say that it won't work etc etc and that there is no future.But I keep holding on to the fact that maybe it may happen, I know this is what I want - and when things are good they are good but then when things are bad they are bad.He is the only thing that truly makes me happyI don't want to get a another year down the track to realise that there's nothing and by that time i've wasted sooo much time.But I love him and don't know how I would cope without him.I don't have many ppl to turn to. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have had enough.Everyone and everything is against me.I don't know what I have done to deserve this.I try and fix things and everything gets blown back in my face. I get hurt all the time.So I have had enough.
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reader, Auntie Marilyn  +, writes (19 November 2009):
This relationship is not working, but by now you are probably too exhausted to do anything about it. It's difficult when you feel a bit isolated, and being in love is a kind of madness that distorts all your thoughts, so it's hard to think straight. You really need a major distraction, but don't jump straight into a new relationship, because that won't work either. Find something else to do and get your head straight. You can get out of this situation, you just need the find the right moment.
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