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*lair42
writes:hello, I just graduated high school and I go to college for network administrating. I've been having a tough time since i graduated... I lost many friends and family over the last year and i have been getting lonely. I never had this problem before In school i had lots of friends and i never had trouble, even with the ladies but for some reason people seem to losing interest in me. I don't know what it is about me. Did i change? Do people not like me anymore? I have no clue. I believe that i am a nice half decent looking guy so why do i deserve to be lonely? I losing my confidence and i don't know what to do.
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reader, blair42 +, writes (29 June 2010):
blair42 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply. When i meant i lost family and friends i ment that we drifted away. I barely talk to anybody
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): What do you mean "I lost many friends and family over the last year"? Did something specifically happen, or are you saying that you just drifted? Just wondering if there is something else going on here. Otherwise, it seems like you had it easy in high school, but when you got to college, the world got a little bit bigger and you realize that you have to make an effort now because now you're a little bit smaller. It's just relative, and the way you are reacting is normal. Don't doubt yourself, you're the same person (I mean people grow and mature in college, so don't expect everything to be the same). I actually went through the same thing, too. For me, the first thing I had to accept was that things change and my "role" in life can change, too. (You might use a different better word that you can relate to). And once I accepted that, I was able to move forward and create my own little niche. I know this is all very abstract, but believe in yourself. You aren't any worse than you've been, it's just that the world around you is changing and moving upward, and you're going to have to climb upward with it :)Hope that made sense. Unless there's something deeper going on here (again with the friends and family thing) what you're going through is normal, and I can't emphasize it enough, but just don't trip here, believe in yourself. :)
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