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writes:I have sort of been seeing a guy for the past couple of weeks now. I haven't even known him for a full month yet. He's already told me that he thinks he's fallen in love with me and that I am the only girl for him. Suddenly it feels like I find him less attractive now. Why is that, and what should I do about the situation? He hasn't had a real girlfriend before due to cultural circumstances, so I don't know if that would have anything to do with why he thinks he loves me already? Reply to this Question
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reader, 333 +, writes (14 September 2010):
I can see why you feel uncomfortable. It hasn't even been in a month and this why is already 'in love' To me love is a very strong word and feeling. The fact that you are his first real girlfriend could have a lot to do with this. He doesn't know what 'love' is yet. He has you. Right now you're probably his everything!
If this is really bothering you tell him. It's way too soon to be saying the L word. :
Good luck.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 September 2010):
 He's confusing his infatuation with you with love. It happens all the time and can definitely be confusing for someone who is unfamiliar with these feelings. The reason you're feeling less attracted to him now is likely due to the fact that it's too easy. Everyone likes the chase a little, even if we don't admit it. Having him as a lap dog usually is a turn off for women. Women generally like their men to act "manly." Smothering you like that isn't very "manly."
What you should do about the situation is maybe cut back a little of the time you're spending together. It is always a good idea to have open positive communication in a relationship, so talking to him about your feelings would be a good start. His proclamation of love may have scared you a little too, and he's less attractive because now you feel like you don't share his level of commitment to the relationship. Talk about it with him, I'm sure you can work past this.
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