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writes:I had this guy in my life for 6 years. We always had a little connection, and as we got closer that connection grew deeper. So in December, we hit a new point. We decided to become exclusive and get serious. Anyway, time goes by and we kind of drift apart because we live 9 hours apart. We hold onto the idea that we will be together soon. But that was the only thing that was keeping us together. So while we hit that small bump, I kind of met another guy and started spending time with him. It started off platonic, but now we spend every night together. He asks me if I can ever see us as something long term. I never thought that he would be, but as I spend more time with him, I can see it. I'm genuinely happy with him even though we got off to a rocky start, which is an even longer story. So today, the first guy calls me and tells me he's on his way here. I can't very well make him turn around because I wanted this. I've gotten close to this new guy. I don't know what to do, or how to tell him that my "boyfriend" is coming. I was thinking of just telling him we're moving too fast and we should take a break. any ideas?
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (23 February 2012):
your a coward sorry to be so stright with you. Dont string along your bf . Come clean , be honest its not fair to him . If you want to be with the new guy go ahead but Dont play games with your bf . If you Dont want him and want to be with your bf , you still need to come clean.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 Hey, Here is my advice on this one:First thing you need to do is take a day just for you. No pedicures or manicures and that lot....just go take a walk and sit somewhere quiet where you can think straight and gather your sane thoughts.Guy #1 - Do you love him? Can you see your life with him long term? You guys have been in a relationship for a while albeit long distance...but he seems keen on making an effort and making it work somehow. I don't suggest that you string him along as he will be hurt badly. I really believe that honesty here is a good thing once you know what you want. If you think Guy #1 is worth the long distance and the nights alone...then Guy#2 needs to be told that so he doesn't get all relationship-ish.Guy #2 - Is he just a fill in for Guy #1? Do you really have feelings for him or is it just that he is closer and fills a gap till long distance guy comes along. Cause while he is filling that gap...feelings on both end are being developed and as you can see...it causes confusion and a torn feeling when it comes time to juggle the two.So seriously, sit and think about this. You have the power to do this the correct way or make "women haters" out of 2 men. Think, be honest with yourself....then be honest with them.Good Luck
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