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Lately, I just don't get turned on by my boyfriend. What can I do?

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Question - (31 May 2005) 2 Answers - (Newest, 5 June 2005)
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I have been with my boyfriend for 16 months and I love him very much, but lately I'm not sure if it's the same between us. I am a very sexual person but lately I'm just not interested in sex with him. I don't know why I just dont get turned on when I'm with him.

I thought it was just me and that it was a phase or something but then two weeks ago me and a friend who has liked me for a while kissed. This happened a few times even though I knew it was wrong, I just wanted him so much.

Now I don't know what to do. I'm not sure how I feel for the other guy but I do know he makes me feel things I haven't felt in a while and when he kisses me I get really turned on. Should I forget about this guy and try and work things out with ny boyfriend? Why don't I want him anymore? How can I change that?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2005):

I know it's not what you want to hear but the best thing to do is probably break up with your boyfriend. I'm in exactly the same position at the moment and i don't have the courage to break up with my boyfriend.I know I should though, because dragging things out will only hurt him more in the long run. Maybe you've got more courage than me, I hope so. I know you love him and don't want to hurt him but that's exactly why you should break it off now. Be Brave!

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A reader, BoricuaJv25 +, writes (1 June 2005):

If you really love your boyfriend first you must tell him about this other guy and see if you can work things out. I also suggest that if he is not turning you on maybe you both try role playing (you know play dress up) spice things up a bit sex becomes boring when you do the same thing over and over. Also try sex toys. Maybe if you let him seduce you or play out some of his fantasies with you then you never know you might just get turned on.

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