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anonymous
writes:Meet a deployed soldier online at the end of Nov and have been chatting away for the last 5 or 6 weeks, seemed to be going ok.We chatted and flirted lightly and expressed an interest in meeting up when he got home. He is stationed local to where I am. He even gave me an address to write to him whilst deployed.I have not had any email contact from him for 2 weeks and just wondered what happened? I know he is probably really busy but has he lost interest already?As he knows I have written to him, will he just write me back instead. He is an older guy and been in the army for 15 years, so maybe a letter is more appreciated.Any ideas or answers would be great?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): he hasn't already bedded you because he is deployed...and if he is telling you he is divorced he is lying.....you need to watch out...you will end up getting hurt...
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Ah, deployments suck.
The reason why you haven't heard much from him is he's probably in the field. Soldiers don't really have the time to talk everyday. There will be times, you'll hear from your soldier consecutively then you won't hear from him in 2 weeks. You're right he's busy.
Also, keep in mind that the internet connection over there is complete crap. It will fade in and out, most of the time it doesn't work.
It's not because he's married, or lost interest..it's because he's out in the field and hasn't had time to contact you. How do I know this? Because I'm an army wife. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): most answers have been very helpful.
yes he is deployed and divorced.
as for anon reader, i have a life, a very busy one in fact and not new to the dating game lol! was good to chat to someone who isn't trying to rush into your bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Your guess is as good as anybodys. Maybe he`s got a wife and she wont let him. Maybe he`s turned gay. Could be youre just another one to flirt online with,maybe he`s full of bs as most guys online are. Maybe he may get in touch soon. What I would be more concerned about is the void in your life that has got you lovesick because of internet chats. He may be okay and go how you would like it to,but for now get a life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): do you know if he has been deployed? if he ahs been deployed he may not have access to the computer and letters can take a couple of weeks to get to them and back again - i know this from experiance as my dad was in the Navy.
write a letter, try a couple of weeks break between them but if you havent had contact after a couple of months your best of calling it quits and letting him reply to you when he is back /can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Well I wouldn't read into this as lost interest so much, it could be but there are so many other possible reasons he could have acted like this. A deployed soldier will have all sorts of commitments going on, not to mention mental/emotional conflicts, they are after all dealing with crisis on a daily event.
So maybe just give him some time and space and see if he gets back in touch on his own. It sounds like he has all forms of communication lines already, email, address, tel no. etc so really it should be his call as and when hes ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): I should imagine a letter is wonderful when you are far from home, and much more personal than an email. Don't worry for now. I'm sure you will hear. The nature of military things is more irregular than ordinary life. Take it slowly, and keep things casual and friendly.
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