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writes:I am interested in getting to know a man better. I have known im for some 16years, but I don't know him personally. I have heard he is dating several women. I asked him if he has a woman, and he saids no. He has friends but not a woman. People say he's sneaky. He saids he's not sneaky just private. I've been interested in him for years, I just recently told him that. He saids he's been interested in me also, saids since we have been talking lately he thinks about me everyday. I let him know straight off that I will not have sex with him, or no one until I am in a serious relationship. People say that he does not want a serious relationship with anyone. I asked him if he did he said he will never say never on that part. I'm debating if I should go on ahead with this, or not I do care about him a lot. I live in a different city, I use to live in the same city he does. I can go visit that city anytime I want, and am possibly thinking about moving back there. I have a lot of friends there. Tell me what should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 Please listen to your question.
" He doesn't want a serious relationship and I do."
What makes you think you are some magical woman who can change his mind?
No man or woman is happy in their relationship when the woman is working to change him. You either except his as he is and his conditions. That statement of his says BABY DON"T BE EXPECTING ANYTHING FROM ME BUT SEX and don't go crying when it's over.
Why would you want to set yourself up for heartache?
No one person is happy when they give up their standards for a few moments for someone else who doesn't support your standards. Not one.
Don't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): He sounds like a liar & a womanizer. I can't believe that you cannot see this about him.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (3 October 2007):
 He sounds to me like he chooses his words carefully, so as to not *incriminate* himself. He does not want to discourage you from making your own choices that might benefit him. If you have many reasons to move and the possibility of getting to know him better is, like, eighth on your list, than go but be cautious. If your reason to go is to be 'the one' that sweeps him off his feet and, oh yeah, you do have a lot of friends there, than sit tight. Be careful with your hear.
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